Relationships of any sort can be demanding and difficult. We bring patterns and habits from our childhood, our family history and previous relationships, as well as our beliefs about what relationships should be like. As Erich Fromm* noted we often think that once we have found the ‘right person”, all will be well. In reality relationships need nurturing and looking after as we grow and change, as life happens to us and as the world we live in changes. We form habits and develop expectations very quickly and often outside of our awareness, as a consequence of this history. Relationships ideally are a place where we can be ourselves, feel safe and trusted. And I know it is possible to make changes to move closer to this possibility.
I often ask each individual to think about what they would like in their relationship and what they might be willing to do to achieve that.
Relationship therapy offers a safe space to to learn how to communicate better, how each of your behaviours and responses impact on the other. It is an opportunity to explore some of those ‘hot’ places between you with someone else to ‘hold the ring’. This means that you can say things you might not usually say, experiment with different responses and learn about the impact you have on people.
The therapy focuses on the relationship and what you each bring to it from your own history and experiences.
All that is required is a willingness to listen to the other, to be thoughtful and curious about what is happening between you, to try different things, and to be open about yourself in the relationship.
Relationship therapy is open to people in all sorts of relationships; romantic, marital, siblings, friendships and business.
Practical Details
Sessions are usually for 90 minutes fortnightly in the centre of Cambridge.
I will sometimes suggest that I have an individual session with each of you following our first meeting, to enable me to get a picture of your individual history of relationships.
Fees
For people with a family income of:
£50k+ - £120 per session
£75K+ - £150 per session
£100k+ - £200 per session
Fees are payable by card at each session.
For more information on my services and how I can help you why not get in touch for an informal chat.
"I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself and others like me."
MAYA ANGELOU